As I unlocked my dark office this morning with a Monster Rehab in hand, exactly 7 hours after I left last night, I realized that the way I felt seemed oddly familiar. I was tired and foggy-headed, overwhelmed at the task in front of me. I read back through my notes from the evening before, struggling to recall exactly what I needed to do. And then it hit me: I don't have to figure it all out right now. Just take the next step.
Maybe not completely. But almost. I've talked with several people lately that want to make changes in their life before the year ends. They're all changes that they've attempted in the past. What's different this time? They are going to try harder. That's it. That's the plan. And it's pretty much guaranteed to fail - like it has every other time before. Pretend the goal is trying to bowl a strike. Using willpower means you'll end up in the gutter nearly every time. Here's what to do instead.
The old saying quipped that the only thing we knew for certain was death and taxes. Now, I think we can add uncertainty to that list. All we know about the future is that it's going to be different. And yet, there was very little training available to prepare us for that. Until Jonathan Fields literally wrote the book on it. The subtitle captures it well for me: Turning Fear and Doubt into Fuel for Brilliance. I don't just want to learn to endure; I want to thrive. I read the book within days of its arrival and felt like I'd just received the instruction manual to my own brain. I thought it could be that powerful, but I wanted to apply the principles for a few weeks to see for sure. I'm convinced.
When I first gave up bread and dairy in December, I really looked forward to "cheat day" on Saturday. At precisely 11:00am, I'd go online to Dominos.com and order my thin crust Memphis BBQ Chicken Pizza. It was my heaven on a plate. And then I kept reading and decided to do away with my "off" days. Once I understood the "why" behind the science, it wasn't hard at all. Except for pizza. I really, really missed my pizza. And then I found recipe magic. Here's how you can make magic too.