For some of us, perfection may only emerge when we’re feeling particularly vulnerable. For others of us, perfection is compulsive, chronic, and debilitating.
Either way, we’ll want to recognize when we’ve stepped on to this dangerous path, and why we want to get off as quickly as possible.
To practicing joy,
Perfectionism: the hazardous detour
Perfectionism is not the path that leads to our gifts and to our sense of purpose; it’s the hazardous detour.
Perfectionism is self-destructive simply because perfection doesn’t exist. It’s an unattainable goal. Perfectionism is more about perception than internal motivation, and there is no way to control perception, no matter how much time and energy we spend trying.
Perfectionism is addictive, because when we do invariably experience shame, judgment, and blame, we often believe it’s because we weren’t perfect enough. Rather than questioning the faulty logic of perfectionism, we become even more entrenched in our quest to look and do everything just right.
Perfectionism actually sets us up to feel shame, judgment, and blame, which then leads to even more shame and self-blame.
“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”
– Brene Brown
Today, I will practice taking off my “mask” so that I may dare greatly.
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.