Find the Deviant (and then become one too)

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In 1990, Jerry and Monique Sternin were given six months to figure out why children in Vietnam were starving and start to fix it. Extreme poverty was obviously the cause, and no one thought any progress could be made in just a few months.

Instead of using common sense or their own previous success methods, they did something very different. They decided to find out if any of Vietnam’s poorest toddlers were not malnourished. When the search team reported back with “‘Có, có, có’” (Yes, yes, yes), they knew it was possible.

Instead of just feeding their children rice, these mothers were mixing in sweet potato greens and shrimps so small they were tossed aside. They were also feeding their children small portions throughout the day, accommodating their tiny stomachs. The differences were so small, they could have easily gone unnoticed.

But these children were not starving, and their solution could apply to all families.

How to Break a Bad Habit

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Anybody close to me knows that the coffee beans in my logo are a bit ironic. I’ve yet to acquire the taste (or the smell). My drug of the choice for the last several years has been Monster Rehab.

My favorite is the green tea, but I was nearly giddy when I discovered the orange flavor at a truck stop on a remote Texas highway. I would drink one every morning, another one mid-afternoon, and then occasionally a third in the early evening.

Because I’ve become a student of foods and nutrition in my journey to eating paleo, I knew that their long list of ingredients contained things that I wouldn’t ingest in any other form. I won’t touch fast food. (I’d rather skip a meal.) And most things that come in bags and wrappers are off limits too. So why would I keep drinking them?

It was a habit.

On Sustained Excellence with Carlos Miceli

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I met Carlos Miceli on a street corner in Austin. It wasn’t quite as adventurous as it sounds, as we were both with groups that recognized each other at SXSW. Through Twitter, we’ve stayed in touch over the years. Lately, I’ve become fascinated with his portfolio of projects and wanted to find out how he maintains so much momentum.

Recently, he accepted a position as the Innovation Advisor to the Director of Citizen Care for the city of Buenos Aires, his home town. He’s still juggling five other major projects, and I haven’t seen him drop the ball yet.

I’m excited to share his story as I have a hunch that there are valuable insights we could learn from.

Announcing Habit Helper

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Last Saturday, I waited in line for over two hours to talk to Gary Vaynerchuk for a few minutes. That might sound like a sacrifice on my part, but it pales in comparison to his willingness to stay for over five hours and talk with every single person that wanted to see him. As he told me, “Giving is my priority. I don’t believe that I can get until I have given enough, and I always look for ways to do that.” That challenged me to think about giving in a different way – as an integral component to business, not as a purely personal endeavor.

On Monday afternoon, I opened an email with Chris Guillebeau’s latest blog post – a challenge to help someone for free for his experiment of scaled generosity. As I read it, I knew instantly what I had to do. Several key conversations and months of thinking merged together to birth a service that would provide free, personalized habit coaching for anyone that needed it.

The Surprising Secret to Finding Your Freedom

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Have you ever wished that you were totally free?

Free from endless meetings and tight budgets. Free from a controlling boss, parent, or spouse. Free from an exhausting schedule and one miserable day after another. Free from an enormous mortgage or sky-high student loans. Free from diseases, health problems, and diets.

Maybe you’ve even dreamed of escaping. Leaving your old life behind. Starting a new one with a clean slate.

I did more than dream.

At 21, after a decade of intense structure and scrutiny, I bitterly swung the pendulum as far as possible the other direction. I refused to balance my checkbook. I ate whatever I desired. I avoided scheduling recurring events, preferring to keep each day “open.” I struck out on my own to avoid corporate structure.

For a time, I escaped it all.

Soon enough, I was back in the cage. Along the way, I learned some lessons that I believe I’m supposed to share with you.

Change Your Schedule, Change Your Life

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During the last half of 2012, I struggled to do many of the things that were important to me. Maybe you’ve experienced that too.

Perhaps it’s an unwritten book gnawing at you. Or a household to-do calls out every time you pass by. Or maybe it’s the self-disappointment that sinks in after you’ve eaten a meal you know you’ll regret.

And the bigger the resistance, the more we know we need to do it. But willpower alone simply isn’t enough.

I’ve sure tried that. And I bet you have too.

It doesn’t work. The solution calls for something more, and I spent the entire month of December searching for it. I read (or re-read) nearly a dozen books. I took online courses. I watched the best interviews. I interviewed my mentors. But I still couldn’t figure out what was wrong.

Have You Updated Your Appliances Lately?

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Is your kitchen and laundry room stocked with all the latest conveniences? Or do you still do everything by hand?

I’m guessing not. But lots of us are still trying to work that way. There’s only one problem. The world has changed, and your work has too.

You’re expected to worker harder, faster, and smarter. You’re expected to know more and find anything at a moment’s notice. You’re expected to communicate down the hall and around the world. It’s tough to keep up.

But there is something you can do: Upgrade your appliances.

Let’s start 2013 with three shiny new tools. We’ll walk through them together.

Stay In the Ring with Your Resolutions

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If you’ve already failed at one of your goals for the new year, that’s great news. It means you have a fresh perspective and new insights about the specific challenges of that goal.

Instead of throwing in the towel, stay in the ring. Chances are, you won’t win by knockout with a single blow, but you can outlast your opponent. If you slip up, just think of it as a new round. Go back to your corner, reassess and tweak your approach, and then try again.

Here are three adjustments you can try.

Planning to Fail

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I remember the week vividly. By Friday afternoon, I was to submit our forecast and budget model for the upcoming year, probably my single biggest corporate project ever. In the 16 hour days, I couldn’t find the time or energy for writing – and I broke my habit. That was two months ago, and the block staring back at me has grown bigger by the day. I couldn’t figure out how to get started again.

Has that ever happened to you?

Perhaps you were working out consistently, and then an injury or illness forced you to the sidelines for what should have been a couple of weeks. Instead, you sat out a few seasons. Or perhaps you were eating well, and then a vacation messed up your routine, and you haven’t been able to find it again.

You’re not alone. It happens to all of us. And I think there’s something we can do about it.

How To Travel the World and Keep Your Job

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I spent half of August doing what I once thought was impossible.

A year ago, I decided to purposely seek extended travel periods and make choices that were in support of that. Every month, I visit my family in north Texas and travel frequently as President of Texas Business Women. Quarterly, I take a week and visit family farther away or attend conferences. I went to the other side of the world for 21 days, kept my job, and didn’t use a bit of vacation time.

Looking back, I realize I could have been doing this for the last decade. I just didn’t have the courage to make those choices.